alan LEE ingber (1945-2026)

Alan Lee Ingber passed away peacefully at home on May 19, 2026, at the age of 81, surrounded by family. He is survived by his wife of 57 years, Marsha; his children, Jennifer (Brady), Daniel (Oriana), and Aaron (Mercedes); and his grandchildren, Leyla, Julia, Sage, Samra, Izel, Oz, and Aya. He was preceded in death by his parents, Samuel and Dora Ingber, and his sister, Laura.

Alan was born on May 15, 1945, in Manhattan and raised in Sunnyside, Queens. He came from humble beginnings: his father had only an eighth grade education and Alan was the first of his family to graduate college. He attended Forest Hills High school and Miami University of Ohio (where he met Marsha). He began law school at Washington and Lee before serving in an Army Reserve Unit. After completing basic training at Fort Bliss in El Paso, Texas, he started his career at Joseph Froggat & Company, working first in accounting and later in tax law while attending New York Law School at night.

In 1973, Alan moved with his family to Los Angeles to join PennCorp Financial as Vice President and head of the Tax Department. In 1983, the family returned east to New Canaan, Connecticut. Through a series of acquisitions and dispositions, PennCorp eventually became Citigroup, where Alan served as Managing Director of the Tax Audit Group. Although the company changed around him, Alan remained remarkably loyal, building a distinguished career that spanned over four decades. Alan suffered a stroke in 2011 that greatly affected his body but did not touch his mind. He retired from his spectacular career in 2013, and he and Marsha moved to Washington, D.C.

Alan was extremely loyal. He maintained the same close friendships from high school and college throughout his life, and he called these friends his brothers. He had an expansive definition of family. His ability to see and appreciate people for who they are led him to show up for those he loved, often in unexpected and creative ways.

Alan was a passionate fan of the New York Giants, Knicks, and Mets. His favorite foods were Pepsi, Cheetos, and Oreos. He loved rainstorms and missed them when living in Los Angeles.

Alan had an extremely active intellect. He played countless games of logic and strategy with his kids and then grandkids. After retirement he took classes in film, politics, and history at George Washington University. As part of the Villages community in DC he attended film screenings, organized film trivia nights, participated in Tuesday morning coffees, and attended history and current events discussions. 

Alan was a big presence and left an impression. His love for his family and friends was immense and he had a huge heart. He was the most generous person. He loved his work and his coworkers. He had a booming voice. He told wild stories that sometimes had a grain of truth to them. He talked his way into things, like an exclusive golf course in Ireland and a corporate suite at a concert. He traveled the world and visited all seven continents and all 50 states. He was up for anything. He threw himself into experiences as enthusiastically as he threw his body onto a water slide float with his kids. He took his kids to Africa. He dressed up as the tooth fairy for his grandchildren. He treasured experiences over possessions. He stirred the pot. 

Alan wanted to be, and will be, remembered as a loveable pain in the ass that got away with things because he was smart, likeable, and always on the side of justice.